Grooms Club

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Now that you popped the big question, and the wedding planning is in full swing, who pays for what?
More and more now days the bride and groom are footing the bill for the whole thing verses years ago
when the brides parents picked up the tab. It really is between you and your bride to decide how to split
the bill for the big day, but here is a list of what the Groom is traditionally suppose to cover.

The Rehearsal Dinner
*Invitations
*Site
*Food
*Drink
*Decor

Rings
*The bride’s engagement ring
*The bride’s wedding ring

Gifts
*A wedding gift for the bride
*Gift for best man
*Gifts for groomsmen

Flowers
*The bride’s bouquet (only in certain parts of the country)
*The bride’s going-away corsage
*Corsages for immediate family members (check with the bride, as she may have this in her floral budget)
*Boutonnieres for groomsmen and ushers

Clothing
*Your own tuxedo, whether you rent or buy
*Ties, gloves, vests/cummerbunds for the attendants if they are not part of the rental package

Lodging & Transportation
*Accommodations for out-of-town attendants
*Your own accommodation
*Accommodations and transportation for out-of-town celebrant if he or she was invited by your family
*Transportation for yourself and your best man to the ceremony
*Transportation and accommodations for your parents

Paperwork
*The marriage license
*Your own medical tests
*The celebrant’s donation or fee

The Honeymoon
*Transportation to the honeymoon destination
*Lodging
*All meals
*All activities

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Being the best man goes way beyond getting the groom hammered on his last night as a single guy showing up the next day in a tuxedo.

The Knot has this great list and several other resources for the best man duties:

• Serve as the groom’s personal aide and adviser before and during the wedding. This can include helping him pack for the honeymoon (the valet part).
• Help the groom choose and rent (or buy) wedding formalwear, and coordinate the other groomsmen’s rentals. You guys are supposed to match, after all! You may be expected to arrange accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen.
• Organize the bachelor party. Don’t be shy about enlisting other groomsmen to help you out — most guys don’t mind this duty! Put financial worries out of your mind — the cost should be split among everyone who attends the bash.
• Attend the rehearsal with the bride and groom and all the other attendants. This is your chance to figure out how you’re supposed to walk down that aisle.
• Stand beside the groom at the altar and keep the bride’s ring until vows are exchanged. Find a safe place for the ring (and triple check that your pockets don’t have holes) — you don’t want to fumble around when it’s time to whip it out.
• Corral the other groomsmen and make sure they’re performing their duties.
• Sign the marriage license as a witness after the ceremony, along with the maid of honor.
• Give the officiant a sealed envelope with his or her fee (the groom’s responsibility) just after the ceremony.
• You may be announced with the maid of honor when the reception begins.
• Dance with both the honor attendant and the bride during the wedding party dances.
• Give the first toast to the bride and groom at the reception. This is your biggest — and probably most frightening — duty. Read our article about toasting, and remember the cardinal rule: Mum’s the word on the bachelor bacchanalia.
• Collect any gift envelopes guests bring to the reception. You may be asked to deposit them in the couple’s bank account or at least to keep them until the couple returns from their honeymoon.
• Decorate the getaway mobile. Grab the other groomsmen and the bridesmaids for this one.
• Drive the couple to the wedding-night hotel or airport after the reception. If you perform this service, you’ll need to stay sober throughout the reception. If you have a feeling this may not be possible, hire a limo to drive the couple into the sunset.

Get ready to get to work because this list is only the beginning. You need to be available for anything your buddy needs you to do but as long as you’re ready to be involved with all the details (and some frustrations) then you’ll be fine.

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